12 Things That Can Be Rape: You Need To Know

The wailers are on break while the zombies are happy as holiday hits the political scenes in blogosphere such as Atiku, Buhari, Dino Melaye, Oshiomhole, APC, PDP, INEC Server, Tribunal, and so on.The only story popping on every blogs is that of Biodun Fatoyinbo Senior Pastor of Commonwealth of Zion Assembly (COZA) who is currently serious trouble following allegation of rape levelled against him by Busola Dakolo, wife of Nigeria’s sensational soul singer, Timi Dakolo.We at MandyNews.com decides add seasoning to the jollof rice by sharing the difference between consensual sex and rape.Here are some questions that can make the distinction between consensual sex and rape clearer;

• If a person did not want to have sex but was made to is that rape? YES
• If a person does not want to have sex but doesn’t think they can say no is that rape? YES
• If a person was forced to have sex but did not fight back, is that rape? YES
• Is forced sex in a marital relationship rape? YES
• Is sex with a minor rape? YES
• If the person who forced you someone, someone,w, is it still rape? YES
• Is forcing a sex worker to have sex rape? YES

• If You Ask Your Partner To Switch Positions And They Refuse rape? YES

  If Your Partner Forces You To Deepthroat Them Rape? YES

  If Your Partner Keeps Asking For Sex After You Refuse, Until You Finally Say Yes Rape? YES

If Your Partner Continues Having Sex With You After You’ve Changed Your Mind About Having Sex Rape? YES

• inappropriate touching rape? YES

Obviously, there is a difference between the non-consensual sexual experiences I’ve had and the violent sexual assaults that so many women survive on a daily basis. But just because some people experience what we are traditionally taught to recognize as rape doesn’t mean that other experiences that don’t look the same are not also rape. Any sexual activity in which one party doesn’t give their full consent to begin with, wishes to withdraw their consent after giving it, or is incapable of giving consent in the first place, is rape.

And until we as a society can grasp this simple concept, rape culture and victim blaming will continue to be the norm. Instead of teaching affirmative consent, we will continue attacking the women who speak up about their experiences with non-consensual sex. Silencing women who speak up about rape discourages women from speaking up during sex in the first place, and then punishes them for not finding the courage to say “no.”So stop defining women’s sexual experiences for them just because they don’t sound like rape to you. Take the time to learn about affirmative consent instead. Please and thank you.